“Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.” (Colossians 3:18)
“....husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” (Ephesians 5:28)
For years I have been admiring the freedom this friend of mine enjoys even after marriage. Now I realised how foolish I am after she recently confided to me her plight. When she and her husband were about to marry, she proposed that they had a joint bank account for the family. However he was against the idea, instead insisted that each to take care of certain common expenses. Now after more than 20 years of marriage and as one grows older, she started to get worry whether her husband saved for rainy days for the family or at least for himself as he refused to be drawn into discussion on this matter.
Some thoughts come to my mind:-
I think couples ought to maintain a joint bank account where both contributing funds towards it on a regular basis. It reflects the commitment from both parties to ensure the financial soundness and stability of the family. It is a fact that many couples quarrel over money matters. It will be better to sort them out before the marriage vow. Lack of trust towards each other is not a good sign for a marriage.
Retain very much the same extent of freedom even after marriage may be a bad sign that each partner continues to carry on his/her own activities without involving each other, which may eventually lead to marriage partners drifting apart and weaken the marital relationship.
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