'Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity.' (Henry Van Dyke)
Today is Valentine"s Day. What a thing to talk about passionate and companionate love.! Rightfully love does not need a specific date to express. We ought to express love on every occasion. It should be an everyday affair. Unfortunately love is such a time-consuming activity, with busyness and worries of life take us far away from it. More and more we need to be reminded about love. This is especially true for couples who have married to each other for some years.
Studies show that couples enjoy a big happiness boasts that lasts on the average for only 2 years. It is passionate kind of love. After that, the special joy starts to wear off when familiarity breeds contempt, or in some cases, indifference to one another. Of course, other forces come to play too such as change in expectations, careers and bringing up children. When couples become so familiar to each other as a sibling, we can cease to be attractive to one another. The danger is when one starts to crave for variety and novelty. So every marriage needs to rebuild in order to strive. In reality, there is no such thing as ‘marriage made in heaven’.
All is not lost. Studies show that couples can have another chance of marriage bliss- i.e. when their children moved out of the family home. The empty nest offers abundant opportunities for them to rediscover and surprise each other. That love becomes more companionate in nature. If they failed to make use of this opportunity, that’s the end of the road for their marriage. Regrettably, many couples at this stage choose to become indifference to one another instead. To me, this is the greatest threat to any marriage. I would rather have quarrels or disagreements than to endure indifference, which is really a mental torture.
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